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Learning How To Tweak Talks: What To Do When Your Youth Group Sermon Bombs (BIG TIME!!!)

Recently, I was giving a talk to middle schoolers and half way through my talk I realized that the students weren’t feeling nor connecting with what I was teaching.  There isn’t a more terrifying feeling for a youth pastor.  I hate this feeling because you feel like a failure.  You look out to your audience and you see bored students.  Not good.

Don’t you hate that moment when you are speaking  and you look out into the crowd and you see many students getting squirrely?  

Right when you step off stage– you immediately ask yourself why and how did I lose them?

You go through your mental checklist:

–  I prayed

–  I prepared

–  I preached the scriptures

So where did I go wrong?

For me I hate speaking, but I know it is essential which is why I am so committed to it.  Speaking is a lot of work.  I have been speaking to teenagers for 10 years and I still get super nervous every time.  It doesn’t matter the group size or speaking environment I still feel like I am going to puke up my breakfast every time I speak to teenagers.

I have discovered that it doesn’t matter how many times you have communicated to students or how good you are– you simply can never connect with all types of students.  Some students will just not like your communication style and that is okay.  I have read public speaking books, studied rhetoric and great orators, taken 2 years of homiletics & youth ministry communication classes, and have had many seminarians and ministry friends tear my youth group talks to shreds.  Bottom line speaking to teens never gets easier and as youth ministry communicators we always have to be refining our speaking skillz.

Here are a few tips on how to tweak your communication skillz:

–  Invite a trusted leader to evaluate your talks.  The aim is to get a trusted leader to give you helpful and constructive feedback.  The keyword is “trusted”.  You have to value this person’s perspective  and really like this person because they will speak the truth in love and it will hurt to hear where and how your talk bombed.  Plus this evaluator will keep you humble and honest.

–  Always keep it simple and short.  You have to keep your language clear and memorable.  When your talk bombs don’t abandon your teaching method.  A lot of the time when your talk bombs it is a pathos problem, not a method problem.  I found that 9 out of 10 times my talks are way too long.  I tend to pack to many fun filled illustrations or spend to much time unpacking theology– which as a result makes my talks feel long.  If you communicate to middle school– keep your talks between 12-15 minutes   If you communicate to high school students keep your talks around 18-25 minutes.  I have never heard a student say, “I really wish the speaker would have spoken longer.”

–  Get more teachers in the youth ministry teaching rotation.  Getting more diverse voices in the rotation will help meet the needs of all the students in the crowd.  Many students are not just going to connect with one speaker.  In my previous youth group, one of my students favorite things was when I let different speakers communicate.  Getting more voices on the stages not only helps you as a speaker grow, but also exposes your students to different styles, experiences and angles on the Scriptures.

–  Get back up there asap.  Right when you bomb a youth group talk, try to communicate again as soon as possible.  It is extremely helpful to learn from your last speaking failure and implement your learnings immediately.  During my pilot training, my flight instructor always made me immediately redo any piloting error I made.  The hope was so to undo any bad flying habits by overdoing the right flying habits.  Sometimes I spent 2 hours practicing slow speed stalls because my instructor wanted me to master my previous failures.  When you fail, you become fearful.  So in order to eliminate the fear of your failure you have to keep practicing.  The same thing is true when you fail at speaking.  The more reps you can get the better speaker you will become.  It is about getting right back up right when you bomb a sermon.  Any youth communicator has to always keep repeating this speaking process:  Pray, prepare, speak and reflect and then iterate again and again and again.

And, finally,  one of the most powerful realization I have made about speaking is that— when I don’t need anything (laughs, acceptance, applause or affirmation)  from my audience, I am in a great place to actually start helping my audience.  My focus turns from not trying to please “them” (students) to trying to please Him.  Remember we as youth communicators, we are not alone up there– so every time we step on stage we give it our best shot.


What are some techniques you do after you bomb a youth group talk?  Any stories welcome.  I know I cannot be alone in train wrecking many youth group talks.  Any helpful practices for becoming a better youth communicator?


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  1. Great post! I’d add:

    – Be careful to not be to critical.
    I’m guilty of immediately critiquing my talks. But in doing so, I don’t embrace that God was present and active, and that His will was being accomplished, wether or not I was awesome. That’s not to say that the talks aren’t important, but perhaps I’m to quick to elevate them, when in the grand scheme of things, how we interact relationally may have more kingdom impact.

  2. In our ministry, we do small groups right after the talk. The talk sets up the group.

    It’s amazing how frequently I might feel like I did a poor job with the talk only to hear that groups went incredible. It takes a lot of pressure off knowing that my talk isn’t the *ONLY* chance they have to hear Truth during the morning.

  3. Keep a deck of playing cards in your pocket and do an impromptu magic trick if you start to lose them. Then close in prayer. Works every time.

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